It is being long that I came back to my blog to write something. I was shocked and in trauma as I lost my father 3 weeks back. I was in deep pain when a friend wrote to me and made me think of how we take pains and how we can get relieved of it. She wrote an email that I want to share with all so they know how to handle such situations.

Dear Amar,

My heart hurt for you and your family when I read about your father. I am so sorry and sad for you. My mom died 5 years ago and two things have helped me that I would like to share with you:

1. Although my mom is gone, she is with me always in my memories of her. I also talk to her a lot and knows she is listening and watching over me.

2. I think of the pain as a concentric circle. When a tragedy such as your dad’s passing first happens, all the pain is in the center of the circle and is intense. As time goes by, the pain lessens and moves from the center. But forever, every once in a while a memory or action occurs that has the pain jump back into the center. With time, the pain becomes less and the memories become stronger.

I hope this helps.

With thoughts and prayers to you, your family, and friends,
Harriet

The philosophy of this concentric circle of pain seems to be true to me. Pain is less now and memories become stronger. Thanks Harriet!

A few days later, Harriet lost her father. May his soul rest in peace.

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